The "old" comment I made to the new man, the Doctor says,

The "old" comment I made to the new man, Doctor Tao said,
was mean nice. After not seeing this man at all for years and years (and then both of us were married) - running into him at a party, the "old" comment was....after I hollered his name...."JOE HAARDY"
he hollered back with the same enthusiasm...SANDY PATSY!!
I IMMEDIATELY noticed he had a gold chain around his neck with a diamond-studded
tennis shoe. Apparently he had gotten it for running the New York
marathon several years ago, which I had forgotten. So now he's closer
and I say in my
normal voice: "You had that stupid necklace on the last time I saw you."

The best thing about that comment was that he didn't flinch and came
back at me with, "The last time I saw you, I wanted to see you naked."
We both roared. We left when the band started to play so loudly that
we were inaudible to each other. He took me to dinner & liked it that
I got out my credit
card when the check came. He noted that his previous girlfriend
didn't even feign
the act of paying. He, therefore, thought, I would not be after his
money. We had laughed a lot over our drinks. When the evening
ended, he asked for a hug, which was very sweet. We exchanged
business cards. That was it.

On Monday, I receive an email from him "And thanking you for a
wonderful evening. Joe Hardy."
I sent back, "And thanking you for a fabulous evening. Now it's
my turn to put out (I should have stopped there) the plastic credit card.
Sandy Patsy."
What is it that I expect here at the end of the week with no phone call?
You've guessed it:::: A phone call.

My Dr. Tao deemed my "mean nice" remark about his necklace a put-off.
Was it really?
Why hasn't he called? I ask you, who is being mean now?
He never said he would call. Why should I expect it...because I
thought I was beautiful & entertaining?
The beautiful part was his word. He said it twice.
I need to hear from you girls out there...why hasn't he called???

(In P.O. P. I describe the not-calling affliction...how it becomes
an act of suffering on our part.) It starts in my excerpt about THE WAITRESS !